So I am sure at some point you have heard the phrase “fake it till you make it”. This phrase started off with good intentions where it was meant to get you to imitate confidence so that as the confidence produces success, it will generate real confidence. The problem is that some people feel that this is a way to justify lying to people in order to make themselves look more successful than they really are.
I have a problem with this line of thinking – not just in my business model but in my weight loss journey (which of course both go hand in hand in my life since what I do as a career is help people get healthy). My philosophy is make it by NEVER faking it. Let me tell you why….
First let’s look at the aspect of weight loss. If you follow my blog at all then you know I am a VERY real person. I celebrate my successes just as much as I post my setbacks and failures. I AM REAL.
So let’s take a look at how this “fake it till you make it” way of doing things can had a negative effect on others who are on their journey to better health and lower weight. Let’s take a look at Jane and Sally as examples:
Jane is a network marketer who sold her products to Sally. Jane is always posting how much weight she is losing, how she always eats perfectly, how he always feels amazing. Never does Jane share anything that may seem “negative”. She never posts the truth about what is really going on. She never posts that she hit a plateau or ate a bad meal or grabbed a huge bowl of ice cream and a bag of chips because she had an emotional breakdown one night. No matter what she always only posts the perfect posts of how awesome she is doing on her products.
Now we look at Sally (Jane’s customer). Sally works hard to shed excess weight she gained over the last few years. She tried to eat right, she tried to drink all of her water each day and she still has a day here and there where she eats a chocolate bar or forgets to drink enough water and grabs a soda or a sweet tea. She cannot for the life of her understand why Jane’s journey is so easy. She cannot understand why it is that no matter how hard she works she is still seeing days where her weight goes up or she still feels the need to grab a snack that is not so healthy. She continues to watch how easy it appears to be for Jane and then she just gets more and more frustrated and eventually she gives up.
The problem here is that people like Jane never ever ever share the reality that comes with a weight loss journey which is that you WILL hit a plateau, you WILL have days that you eat bad or don’t workout or gain weight because its a holiday week. What happens when these people continue to post only the good stuff and none of the reality is that the people always reading that feel like they are doing things wrong. The person who is feeling like they are struggling are more likely to feel even more like they are failing in their journey because they cannot also be that ‘perfect’.
Stop posting that your losing weight if you are not losing weight!
WHY on earth are you faking your journey? People don’t want fake – people want to relate to other people who are just like them – IMPERFECT!
This does not just got for weight loss, it goes for everything we do in life. Being a parent, being married, running a business – the fact of the matter is NO ONE IS PERFECT so why pretend to be something you are not?
When it comes to network marketing as a business people can see right through these types of lies as well. Network marketing is no where near the perfect business. You will have setbacks, you will have times your team moves forward and times where you will lose people who find that this is not the right opportunity for them. If you go around telling people “oh my gosh I can;t keep up I get 1,000 emails a day” or “my private messages on Facebook are so full I just lose track and can’t answer them all” – these exaggerations set an unrealistic expectation of what success looks like.
The fact of the matter in network marketing is you WILL have months that your check goes up and you WILL have months your check goes down. You WILL have times where your team will grown and you WILL have times that people will quit the business. STOP being fake… be real – its more relatable to someone looking to join your team or who look to you as a leader when you can admit that you will have ups AND downs in this business. By saying how perfect your business is you are setting unrealistic expectations which in the end will frustrate others who are not seeing your “success”.
Show me someone who pretends to have it all together, and you’ll find me walking the other direction. That gut instinct inside each of us can detect that coming a mile away! While authenticity is hard to define, you probably know its opposite when you see it. So you may frustrate some who do buy into what you say when it comes to your wright loss or business or anything else in your life, but for the most part you will find that you will push everyone away who is smart enough to realize that your journey is a fake made up fairytale.
You can call this whatever you want but a lie is a lie is a lie. So for me I will stick with being a REAL person and sharing my ups and my downs. They happen. THAT my friends is reality (nothing fake about that) and that is what people will relate to and be drawn you – your AUTHENTIC self. Tell your story – the ups and the downs – and never be ashamed because I can guarantee you there are people out there just like you who need to hear they are not alone!
It is very easy to get caught up in doing things for image sake – after all, so many people are watching. But overloaded by sales pitches, people are gravitating toward brands and leaders that they sense are true and genuine. At the end of the day be YOU – and be the best version you can be – genuine, purposeful, passionate, and full of integrity. At the end of the day, people can tell.
So which one are you? Do you keep it real or do you fake it? I would love for you to comment below on your experiences with this!